Serious questions I ask myself

A few days ago, an old friend of mine and I were chatting via MSN messenger. She's about 27 years old now, single, never married, virgin, Mormon. We get along really well, and have overcome issues in our friendship only to have a stronger bond at the end of the tribulation.

Over the course of our conversation, she mentioned that I should come visit her (she insists I visit her just about every conversation we have, this is not the unusual part) and console her because she hates her job. Jokingly, I told her that my main method of "consolation" violates important parts of her religion. (Fucking. I console people with orgasms, if you didn't catch the reference.)

To my surprise, she told me she would take... Well, let me just copy-paste a couple sections of our conversation:

J says:
YOU come over and console me

Chris says:
my methods of consolation violate your religion XD

J says:
Well I'll take a day off from my religion then

Chris says:
...

J says:
just a day

J says:
or two

Chris says:
O_O

Chris says:
don't tempt me

J says:
better round it up to a week


Now, normally, I'd just assume she was joking, but knowing J, I recognize little patterns she makes that show me that she really wants something. Generally, she will continually bring up a topic that she wants to discuss in a really abstract manner. For instance, I remember a time that no matter what I or anyone else in our group of friends asked her, she would always respond with "Ice cream" until finally someone said, "Do you want to go get ice cream?" and she would jump up excitedly and run to the car.

Keeping that in mind, later in the conversation, she brought up the topic again:

J says:
you've got no excitment for the big week

Chris says:
the big week?

J says:
ya

Chris says:
the week is big?

J says:
the week I'm taking off

J says:
when you come and "console" me

Chris says:
I'd be more excited if you were serious, because it would honestly be completely unforgettable

J says:
or whatever you crazy kids call it these days

Chris says:
haha

J says:
I'll just make a memo in my calander,"This week off" and you come adorned with whip cream

J says:
fair enough?

Chris says:
we're going to need lots of whipped cream then

Chris says:
and strawberries

J says:
bring it on

J says:
I want to hear what all the craze is about


Okay, so now we have background out of the way. Regardless of what happens between J and I in the future (Likely not much, but you never know.) it brings up some serious philosophical questions about the way we live our lives.

Imagine yourself for a moment as someone who was told their entire lives that the world was flat. Everyone you trusted and believed in told you the world was flat and that such a flat stable surface was a metaphor for how to live your life because it is healthy and wise, blah blah. Then, you get in a rocket ship by some chance and you see, the earth is ROUND! Imagine the heartache. Everything you believed, everything you based your life around, every person you trusted, wrong. All based on false information. It would be incredibly depressing and incredibly disruptive to your psyche.

So, imagine J, 27, virgin, wanting to get married, her ovaries are screaming for stimulation and baby making. Her church teaches her that living righteously will eventually yield a husband, but physiologically, her body is saying that she needs to get some cock.

Having been a Mormon, and disagreeing with many of the rather arbitrary beliefs, it's my personal belief that sex is a good thing for people. I agree with Dr. Kinsey that postponing sexual drive is unhealthy. The conflict in my particular scenario though is, which is more damaging? Postponing her sex drive, or knowingly engaging in something she has always believed was morally wrong?

I have a few ideas of how things would work out in this scenario. They would all start like so:

We'd see eachother, do our catching up, maybe watch a movie, and generally end up just talking for long hours into the night, like we usually do.

THEN:

1.) While both tired and foggy in our heads, we do something sexual. Not necessarily full intercourse, but probably just fooling around.

2.) While both tired and foggy, we start to do something sexual, but one of us says, "Wait, let's talk about this." and we decide not to.

3.) While both tired and foggy, we start to do something sexual, but one of us says, "wait," and we decide to continue.

4.) We cuddle and that's it.

5.) We cuddle and fall asleep together, then the next day, repeat the talking late into the night, except we cuddle, then get busy with the furious humping.

There are countless variations that could perceivably happen concerning the sexy time, but AFTER the act (or acts if she likes what I can do with my tongue), there are only a handful of possibilities.

1.) She does her best to repent and move on away from the sexuality, furthering the sexual repression, which is later allowed to blossom when she eventually gets married.

2.) She does some thinking similar to what I did, and slowly moves away from her faith.

The question I ask myself, is do I want to be the instigator of what could possibly be more destructive than what I believe her religion is? Can I be someone that upsets the status quo? Should I?

Taoism teaches us action without action. Meeting firmness with softness, and vice versa. Is her softness and reluctance to be sexual something I should meet with firmness (snicker) and resolve? Keep in mind, that I would never force sexuality on someone that is unwilling, but since J has brought it up and showed some subtle interest in it, should I push the issue or let it be?

I've already made up my mind, but the questions will haunt me for a long time I imagine. With the information I have so far, I cannot be the aggressor. I will not. If she expresses explicit interest, and only if we have a serious long discussion about the subject will anything non-platonic between us happen.

Afterword from another perspective:

Hello, this is Chris' man-piston, and I want to get with J. I want to all night long. I want to. All. Night. Hard.